Expand Your Influence, Motherhood

Hey, Mom. Buy new underwear.

I get it, I really do. The kids keep growing. People judge you based on their appearance. You can still wear a lot of your old stuff (yes, even your underwear). It’s fun to dress little people and their clothes are so cute! But let’s take a moment to talk about self care for moms. 

Self care for moms by tabithadumas.com, mom, wife and self care advocate

Self care for moms

I truly do get how the above is funny and how the topic of “Why can’t I throw out these old underwear??” could be a hilarious topic of conversation for a girls’ night out.

This post is for those of you who not only need new underwear but need…

  • more sleep
  • a long, hot bath
  • an outfit you feel amazing in
  • an hour alone, even just once a week
  • to pursue a hobby you use to enjoy
  • deeper friendships
  • help around the house
  • regular date nights
but can’t because you’ve put yourself last on the priority list. I’ve been there. It’s easy to do.

This isn’t an issue of putting your kids first or letting the kids rule your life. The thing about the kids in new clothes and you wearing ratty old underwear just points to a bigger problem all women struggle with: losing themselves when they over-give and over-serve others.  Moms just happen to be among the most common victims.

It’s about self care for moms and accepting that what your loved ones need is a whole, happy, rested YOU.

Self care for moms. -tabithadumas.com

Ladies, take the time to assess your needs.

Self care means asking yourself two questions:

  1. What do I need right now? and
  2. What can I do to address this need? 

Some ladies need a day spent at the spa, others need a day spent hiking.

One day you might fuel your creativity with a trip to a local art museum where the next day you take your sketch pad to a nature preserve.

Would a mani-pedi really make you feel better or should you have a long chat with your best friend instead?

Maybe you do need new underwear. But you might also need a day alone at home to journal, listen to music and sip tea.

So really. Check your underwear drawer. Could Mama use some new skivvies? Let that be a catalyst to check in with yourself on a regular basis to make sure your needs are being addressed.

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About Tabitha Dumas

Seeing women showing UP to their life authentically and confidently--THAT is what excites me. I am a strategist, bringer of the fun, trail blazer and agent of encouragement offering creative and effective strategies to help women elevate their image and expand their influence. I'm also a magazine junkie, dedicated wife, fun-loving mama, bargain shopper and story teller trying to use my powers for good in this crazy world. I love my life!
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