You hear it all the time: No one can do it all. But this looks different for everyone so
let’s redefine “doing it all.”
This is one of the principles that guides my life:
The woman who does it all is a myth. Here’s why.
Think of a woman you know who seems to have it all together.
You admire her ability to juggle all of her responsibilities and still seem polished and calm. You wish you could get your act together like her. You might even be a little bit jealous of her gifts, her financial means or her season of life.
Now. Really think about her. How does she spend her days? What is she doing that gains your admiration? What does she look like? How does she act?
Here’s the problem–and the solution.
That woman who’s “doing it all” in your imagination? She’s different for every woman.
You might admire the woman who has five kids, still looks cute all the time and bakes homemade goodies for the church bake sale. Your best friend might admire the retiree who volunteers her time within the community and also helps raise her grandkids. Someone else admires the working mom who somehow still finds time to help out at her kids’ school and run a nonprofit.
Guess what? Someone out there thinks YOU are the woman who is “doing it all.” That’s right–YOU. Because to her, you’re doing the things that matter and that she wishes SHE could be doing.
This is great news! Why?
Because it means that “doing it all” is like beauty–it’s in the eye of the beholder.
There is no one way to “do it all.” Some may say you’re doing it all while you may think you’re nowhere close.
You get to decide what it means to “do it all.”
You get to define what matters to you.
You get to determine what to NOT do in order to pursue the things that matter most.
Newsflash: every woman is giving up some things to do what she wants to do.
It may be being able to afford a vacation, homeschooling or just bathing regularly.
Some people might call you busy, scattered or even crazy. And some will look at you and say, “Wow, I don’t know how she does it.”
The only thing that matters is that YOU are doing what matters to YOU.
[tweetthis]please withhold judgement on the women “doing it all” in a different way than you.[/tweetthis]
The working mom may or may not be missing out on time with her kids. You don’t know.
That stay-at-home-mom could be drinking in the closet or ignoring her kids while she watches Netflix all day. You don’t know.
One challenge for you:
That woman you admire? Talk to her. Pick her brain. Find out what she really does with her time. She may not have it all together as much as you thought. And you’ll really enjoy discovering what she doesn’t do in order to do what matters to her. Trust me, it’ll make you feel better. And it might help you redefine “doing it all” in your own life.
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