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Keep doing scary things

Are you ready to keep doing scary things?

When was the last time you did something scary?

“Scary” is a relative term. Some people think trying a new hair ‘do is scary, or traveling outside of their home state is scary, or being without wifi is scary.

I’m NOT talking about the “jumping out of an airplane” scary (although trying to go a day without wifi could be a fun experiment–have at it!).

I’m talking more about the REALLY terrifying stuff of everyday life, like…

  • inviting a woman you just met over for coffee
  • signing up for that art class you’ve been meaning to take
  • wearing actual colors instead of black, gray and white
  • teaching a class
  • submitting a piece of writing to a magazine
  • dating
  • saying “no” to an exciting project

Some people are scared spitless to speak in front of a room full of people whereas others find authentic one-on-one conversations much more daunting.

So what is something scary that you’ve been putting off?

DO THAT THING.

"Do one thing every day that scares you." -Elenor Roosevelt tabitha dumas keep doing scary things

Or maybe you just need to step out of what’s comfortable and normal and see how it feels.

Practice will make it easier to keep doing scary things. 

I had to got to sing in front of almost 300 people at a fundraiser event recently. Leading up to it, I tried to think of ways to get out of it. On the night of the event, the song was at the end of the program so by the time it was our turn, I was shaking with nerves. As soon as I got on the stage, I was fine but only after three Rescue Remedies and resisting the fight or flight response for almost an hour.

Keep doing it afraid. It gets easier, I promise.
That’s me in the middle at the mic, doing it afraid in front of almost 300 people at a fundraiser event, March 2015.
Keep doing scary things!
Is being a part of a flash mob scary to you?

Doesn’t it look like we had a blast?? We did!

It was totally worth it. Afterward I danced alongside some of my favorite people and I felt amazing. I’m so glad I did it.

In fact…

never once have I done something scary and regretted it.

But if you’re like me and you’ve watched people do scary things and think, “I could never do that.”

Maybe you think they’re NOT scared, that they’re somehow immune to the nervous shaking or the “I wonder if they’ll notice if I bolt out of here” temptation. Maybe you think that you, in the same situation, would quit or pass out.

They’re just doing it scared. And you can do it, too. And survive!

I encourage you to think of something scary that you’ve been putting off. It doesn’t matter if it’s scary to anyone else. It just has to stretch your comfort levels a little. If you need a little nudge, consider Keeping Tabs On It. Visit Work With Me to learn more.

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It's OK to be scared. Keep doing scary things. Take the leap!

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About Tabitha Dumas

Seeing women showing UP to their life authentically and confidently--THAT is what excites me. I am a strategist, bringer of the fun, trail blazer and agent of encouragement offering creative and effective strategies to help women elevate their image and expand their influence. I'm also a magazine junkie, dedicated wife, fun-loving mama, bargain shopper and story teller trying to use my powers for good in this crazy world. I love my life!
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